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LET THE PARTY BEGIN – IT’S SATURDAY NIGHT

 

Ok – here we go – just picture this…

 

We are driving a brand new Red - 1986 “Carroll Shelby Dodge Daytona Turbo Z” up the coast of California.  The day is perfect, wrapped in sunshine and a cool breeze.  Just enough mist in the air that it makes your complexion look Dewey!   Yes – there is Love in the air – we have been married for only 3 years but we are still honeymooning!

 

 “It’s you and me baby”  – Yes Love is in the air.  I don’t know of a better song to play, as you’re driving and promising with your eyes what your later going to do to your honey when you arrive at your destination.  Wow wow wow!

 

What’s so cool about this picture is the fact that we are still driving around the coast of California – different car but oh the song is the same!    Ain’t love grand?

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I have been thinking….(That usually scares my hubby and always makes him laugh – why I don’t know but it does.)

 

Anywho…  Me being LookingforLucy is quite awkward to some as we have plenty of Lucy’s on the stream and when we all talk to each other and I love and cherish their friendship, but it even get confusing as to whom is talking to whom even for us. 

 

So with that in mind – I am going to shorten my name, some of you call me this already but here goes – officially from this moment – I will be…

 

LOOKIN’ –  It’s easier and I like it.

 

 So from now on when you see me or my little  “tinker bell” –--- you will know it is just little ‘O  me

 

LOOKIN’  and hanging around to share some “love” with you.  

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I just got back from a couples seminar with my hubby,  and I was wondering what you all consider the most valuable things that your spouse bring to your relationships?

 

For example:  If you were to name three things that your life partner gives to you that makes the relationship work, What would they be?  It will vary and it will totally depend on your needs, not mine, but yours.  This means we will all be different but there will start to be consistencies among us that you will notice.

 

I will go first with the three (3) things I need most to make me happy in my relationship with my husband.  There are more than 3 but these are the top three.  (These needs are all given with the idea that above everything listed (for me) he must be a Godly Christian man, before a list would even be compiled - but that isn’t a need for everyone, I understand.)

 

 So here goes MY LIST:

 

1.            Affection – I need acts of affection outwardly – the more the better.  I associate romance with love.

2.        Emotional support – I need to know that whatever I do in life he will support me 100% in doing it and never hold me back because of his insecurities.

3.          Respect – I need his respect as a human being above all others I must always feel I am first in his life (after God).

 

Now for my hubby – I know, because he has told me that his top 3 are as follows:

 

1.      Respect – he must feel respected to feel loved and show it.

2.     Appreciation – He must feel appreciated or he doesn’t want to do anything for me.

3.     Affection – without the two above items – he won’t feel affectionate and would not show it.

 

So although we are similar – we are very different. – How about you – Do you know what your life partner needs in your romance?  What do you think?

1 Corinthians 10:21

21) You cannot drink the cup of the Lord and the cup of demons too; you cannot have a part in both the Lord's table and the table of demons.   (NIV)

This passage just jumped out and grabbed me this morning.  I thought about how many times I have tried to sit at both tables.  The more I think about it the more I feel blessed that my Lord didn’t remove my chair at the table, permanently.  I still can go to the table and eat with my Jesus, if I just ask for His forgiveness.  Just like it says in …

Revelations 3:20

20) Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me.   (NIV)

Where are you eating tonight –at which table will you sit?

We had a wonderful weekend in Pismo – we were at a “Love and Respect” conference and it was Awesome.

 

Just some food for thought that we found so helpful in all marriages.  First off if you haven’t read the book  “Love and Respect”  by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, do your marriage a great service and read it together. Or, if your not married yet, read it so you won't make some of the mistakes most married couples make.  We forget the basics that make a marriage work…or some of us have never learned them and what a difference they can make.

 

The Love She Most Desires…

 

The Respect He Desperately Needs…

 

Think about this, Women want to feel love and Men must feel respected to give her the love she needs.  When she doesn’t feel Loved, she disrespects him and if he doesn’t feel Respected, he doesn’t give her the love.

 

Can you see the vicious cycle that is started here?   So simple, yet so hard if you don’t have that magic item in your marriage.  What or who is that item that “glues” us together?   It’s God – because we can love God as He loves us and we can respect God as he respects us.  We love each other out of “respect” for God.  Simple – not hardly – doable, absolutely.

 

 Think about that…and Read that book, or if your lucky enough to hear Dr. Emerson Eggerichs by DVD or in person do so.   He is speaking straight from the  heart of God on how to "Love and Respect" one another and clarifies how we want to be loved and respected.